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Category: Relationship with God
Your Commitment
Do you want to learn how to control your feelings and reactions to intensely conflicting situations? […]
Your Faith
Do you believe in Jesus Christ and are you open to developing a closer relationship with him? […]
It Shines Inside You
Over the next few years (2006-2008), I couldn’t help but apply what I was learning through personal revelation to my life. When I saw the truth, I realized I needed to correct myself as a mother, a wife, a sister, a daughter, and a friend. […]
I Know Where Beauty Lives
In the Spring of 2006, I went to Vail, Colorado for my own personal writer’s conference with the Lord, instead of going to the BYU writer’s conference again. I stayed in a nice hotel and was able to study full-time without interruptions for a few days. I have much gratitude to Sherm for making these retreats possible. […]
I Learned My Lesson Well
When I swore I would never write again, I experienced intense depression. It felt like something had died in me. For the next week, my heart mourned as I went about my regular mom routine – taking care of the kids, cleaning the house, and shopping. […]
My Financial Advisor
I was a junior in high school and my Grandma said she would pay for my college if I did the work to get accepted by a university. Not long after I understood this, my grades jumped from Bs and Cs to As and Bs. Still, I got into Brigham Young University by the skin […]
Born Again
In the past few posts, I’ve been telling the story about how the Savior has been changing me from someone who had the habit of Turning and Reviling Again to someone who Stands Steadfast in Him. While my entire life has been a training period to develop this skill, the level of training began to […]
Toxic Blame
In Blaming Judgment we attribute too much responsibility to other Causes as a Resolution Process. We teach the child to blame another child, her parents, or other Causes, without also evaluating her own choices that contributed to the Conflict. The goal for Toxic Blame, whether we are conscious of it or not, is to absolve […]
Toxic Shame
Imbalanced Judgment splits down the middle. There is Toxic Shame and there is Toxic Blame. In Toxic Shame, we attribute too much responsibility to one person as a Resolution Process. We teach the Child to blame herself without also teaching her to consider the other Causes involved. In doing this we subject her to more […]
Turning & Reviling Again
Being beautiful has been very important to me since I was really young. And for me, being skinny, not fat, was a big part of what it meant to be beautiful. In my mind, I wasn’t as yet so successful in obtaining that desire. In fact, I saw myself as failing. I started keeping a […]
Where do I Belong?
In a previous blog post, I described a scene out of my own life story. It was a Conflict. It was an illustration of a relationship that was not working. The relationship was dysfunctional. It seemed to be failing in its purpose. There were two people involved, members of the same family, brother and sister. […]
