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Category: Child to Parent
My Financial Advisor
I was a junior in high school and my Grandma said she would pay for my college if I did the work to get accepted by a university. Not long after I understood this, my grades jumped from Bs and Cs to As and Bs. Still, I got into Brigham Young University by the skin […]
Toxic Blame
In Blaming Judgment we attribute too much responsibility to other Causes as a Resolution Process. We teach the child to blame another child, her parents, or other Causes, without also evaluating her own choices that contributed to the Conflict. The goal for Toxic Blame, whether we are conscious of it or not, is to absolve […]
Toxic Shame
Imbalanced Judgment splits down the middle. There is Toxic Shame and there is Toxic Blame. In Toxic Shame, we attribute too much responsibility to one person as a Resolution Process. We teach the Child to blame herself without also teaching her to consider the other Causes involved. In doing this we subject her to more […]
Turning & Reviling Again
Being beautiful has been very important to me since I was really young. And for me, being skinny, not fat, was a big part of what it meant to be beautiful. In my mind, I wasn’t as yet so successful in obtaining that desire. In fact, I saw myself as failing. I started keeping a […]
Where do I Belong?
In a previous blog post, I described a scene out of my own life story. It was a Conflict. It was an illustration of a relationship that was not working. The relationship was dysfunctional. It seemed to be failing in its purpose. There were two people involved, members of the same family, brother and sister. […]
Standing Steadfast in Christ
Last weekend I watched the movie “Joseph Smith: The Prophet of the Restoration” again. In one of my Special Ops Moms blog posts I wrote how I felt about the movie when I first saw it: “When I sat in the theater after seeing this for the first time, I could not get up. I […]
Shields Up!
In the Standing Steadfast in Christ blog post, I talked about this amazing strength our Savior has to remain balanced in the face of adversity. I spoke of how much I admired this character trait that I also saw in Joseph Smith. A major part of the reason I admire this trait so much is […]
Paradoxical vs. Survival Parenting
As a parent, I’m aware that my children do not yet understand how to keep their commitments to the extent I do so I show them how it works by keeping mine first even when they don’t. I do this both in the physical chores around the house AND in the spiritual chores. When they […]
